The Huberman Lab Podcast discusses neuroscience: how our brain and its connections with the organs of our body control our perceptions, our behaviors, and our health. We also discuss existing and emerging tools for measuring and changing how our nervous system works. Dr. Andrew Huberman is a tenured Professor of Neurobiology and Ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. His laboratory studies neural regeneration, neuroplasticity, and brain states such as stress, focus, fear, and optimal performance. For more than 20 years, Dr. Huberman has consistently published original research findings and review articles in top-level peer-reviewed journals, including Nature, Science, Cell, Neuron, and Current Biology. He is a regular member of several National Institutes of Health review panels and a Fellow of the McKnight Foundation and the Pew Charitable Trusts. Dr. Huberman regularly consults for technology development companies, professional athletic organizations, and various units of U.S. and Canadian Special Operations.
Dr. David Buss: How Humans Select & Keep Romantic Partners in Short & Long Term | Episode 48
In this episode, my guest is Dr. David Buss, Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas, Austin, and one of the founding members of the field of evolutionary psychology.
Dr. Buss describes his work on how people select mates for short and long-term relationships, the dynamics of human courtship, and mate value assessment — meaning how people measure up as potential partners. We also discuss the causes of infidelity and differences for infidelity in men and women. He explains how people evaluate and try to alter other people’s mate value as a means to secure and even poach mates. We discuss monogamous and non-monogamous relationships in humans. And we discuss what Dr. Buss calls “the dark triad”— features common in stalkers and narcissists that relate to sexual and psychological violence in relationships.
This episode is sure to be of interest to anyone single or in a relationship who seeks to know how people select mates and anyone who is interested in forming and maintaining healthy romantic partnerships.
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Timestamps:
- 00:00:00 Introducing Dr. David Buss
- 00:04:10 Sponsors: ROKA, InsideTracker, Headspace
- 00:08:33 Choosing a Mate
- 00:13:40 Long Term Mates: Universal Desires
- 00:18:31 What Women & Men Seek in Long-Term Mates
- 00:25:10 Age Differences & Mating History
- 00:32:20 Deception in Courtship
- 00:37:30 Emotional Stability
- 00:38:40 Lying About Long-Term Interest
- 00:41:56 Short-Term Mating Criteria, Sliding Standards & Context Effects
- 00:46:25 Sexual Infidelity: Variety Seeking & (Un)happiness & Mate Switching
- 00:54:25 Genetic Cuckolds, How Ovulation Impacts Mate Preference
- 00:57:00 Long-Term vs. Short-Term Cheating, Concealment
- 00:59:15 Emotional & Financial Infidelity
- 01:04:35 Contraception
- 01:06:22 Status & Mating Success
- 01:10:10 Jealousy, Mate Value Discrepancies, Vigilance, Violence
- 01:24:13 Specificity of Intimate Partner Violence
- 01:25:12 Mate Retention Tactics: Denigration, Guilt, Etc.
- 01:27:33 Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy
- 01:33:25 Stalking
- 01:39:15 Influence of Children on Mate Value Assessments
- 01:43:24 Attachment Styles, Mate Choice & Infidelity
- 01:46:40 Non-Monogamy, Unconventional Relationships
- 01:54:00 Mate Value Self Evaluation, Anxiety About the Truth
- 02:02:12 Self Deception
- 02:05:35 The Future of Evolutionary Psychology & Neuroscience
- 02:06:56 Books: When Men Behave Badly; The Evolution of Desire, Textbooks
- 02:10:42 Concluding Statements, Zero-Cost Support: Subscribe, Sponsors, Patreon, Thorne
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